Texted Him, Blocked Him, Missed Him: A Modern Love Story

Once upon a time (read: last Tuesday), I woke up, stared at the ceiling, and texted someone I swore I would never speak to again. It was 8:43 a.m. I hadn’t even brushed my teeth.

By 8:46 a.m., I regretted it.
By 8:52 a.m., I had blocked him.
By 9:10 a.m., I missed him.
By lunch, I was spiraling through old screenshots like a time traveler with no dignity.

This is not a unique experience. This is a modern love story.

Let’s Be Honest: We’re All a Little Delusional

We live in a time where dating means navigating DMs, Hinge voice prompts, “heyyy” at 2 a.m., and situationships that feel like long-term relationships minus the commitment and emotional safety.

You are not crazy for catching feelings. You are not dramatic for blocking him. You are not weak for missing him. You are just dating in 2025, and it’s emotionally chaotic by design.

Why Do We Keep Going Back?

You know he’s not good for you. You’ve said it. Your friends have screamed it. Your therapist raised an eyebrow. And yet, you still find yourself:

• Checking his story even though you muted him

• Re-reading texts like they’re poetry

• Debating if “hope you’re good” is chill or desperate

• Sending a meme to reopen the convo you closed three weeks ago

It’s not always about him. Sometimes it’s about the feelings he gave you: attention, excitement, routine. Even if he was wildly inconsistent and texted like a raccoon in a group chat, he represented something familiar.

Humans crave closure. The problem is, most modern flings end without it.

Blocking Isn’t Just for Drama Queens

Sometimes you need a digital restraining order for your own peace. Blocking is not immature. It’s an emotional boundary with tech support. If seeing their name pop up undoes your progress, it’s okay to protect your nervous system. You don’t need to announce it. You don’t need to explain it. You don’t need to feel guilty.

The block button exists for a reason. So do Do Not Disturb settings and girlfriends who pry the phone out of your hand.

Missing Someone Doesn’t Mean You Made a Mistake

Missing him doesn’t mean you should go back. It just means you’re human and experienced connection, even if it was uneven. You shared moments that felt real. It’s okay to grieve what could have been.

The trick is to separate the feeling from the fantasy. Are you missing him, or are you missing a version of yourself that felt wanted? Were you actually happy, or just distracted from your loneliness?

Be honest with yourself.

What You Really Deserve

You deserve more than cryptic texts and inconsistent effort. You deserve:

• Replies that don’t feel like a social experiment

• Plans made before 10 p.m.

• Emotional availability without decoding games

• Someone who doesn’t make you question if you’re too much

You don’t need to be cooler. You don’t need to be more chill. You don’t need to be less attached. You just need to stop shrinking yourself to fit inside someone else’s comfort zone.

The Cycle is Real, But It’s Not Forever

We’ve all been here. Text -> Spiral -> Block -> Cry -> Unblock -> Stalk -> Repeat. At some point, though, the story changes.

One day you stop missing him. One day his name makes you feel nothing. One day you realize you don’t want the version of love that hurts to hold onto. And that’s when the real story begins: the one where you choose yourself without needing to be chased, fixed, or validated.

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